Going away for good

[nadine]

I'm sorry to tell everyone this, but I'm hurt....deeply hurt! I gotten into an ugly fight with my mom now and she thinks I'm hiding something from her, but it's none of her business. She said she threaten me going on the computer and find out who I'm talking who. I can't tell her what people I'm talking to whether it's from the boards or on MSN or YIM cause she wouldn't understand how I feel, that's why I'm gonna go and try to delete my accounts and stop using MSN and YIM until she she can't find a thing of what I have on here.

I'm not sure if she really means it or not, but I have a will on stake and I want to protect this for everyone I care about. I don't want her to try hacking into my account and keep all my online freinds away from me, which is why I'm leaving for good. So I'm sorry if I disapointed everyone around here, but I feel like I don't have the respect from anyone anymore. I don't know if I'm coming back here or not, but.....who knows? Goodbye.......for now.

[Night Bear]

If you ask me, deleting your accounts and refusing to get on IMs just because you are afraid of what your mother might do doesn't seem to be a good idea. How do you know your mom will try and keep everyone you've befriended away from you? How do you know she'd go that far? Perhaps you are just overreacting.

I know nothing about the fight, but she is still your mother and she does have the right to find out what is going on. It might not look like it, but maybe she is just worried about you, and maybe she thinks that someone online upset you, or something. To try and hide everything you've done online would probably only make her more suspicious and more desperate in finding out if you truly are hiding something from her.

I'm sorry if I'm sounding harsh. But I do think it would be best if you tell your mom the truth. If you really are hiding something from her, talk to her about it. You might just be surprised at the result.

[Epesi]

Nadine, if you see this, Night Bear's right. For one thing, deleting everything can only make your mom more suspicious; and for another, by running away from the board you are making your fears come true. You think she might try to keep you away from us, so your solution is to leave us for good? That's like saying, "You can't fire me, because I quit."

Please, reconsider. I don't know what happened between you and your mom, but I think you should give her a chance. Things probably aren't as bad as they seem. Just be honest with her, and I'm sure this will turn out for the best.

You have friends here; what could be wrong with that? I'm sure she would understand. Please come back; I don't want to lose a friend.

[EbonyPatriot]

I don't know about the fight or your mother; but going from what you've posted, Night Bear pretty much summed up my thoughts- by deleting everything, your mom will just be more suspicious and it will confirm her belief that you're hiding something.

Forgive me, but taking the attitude that 'it's none of her business' won't help either- besides, as your mother, as long as you live with her it's her job to watch what you're doing to make sure you're okay. Like Night Bear said, she's probably worried about you.

I'm sorry that you've been hurt by her. I do think it'd be better to tell her what you've been going on- she might become less suspicious and might trust you more.

-EbonyPatriot

[Ken'ichi]

I agree with what the others said. Nadine, deleting everything and going away is only going to make your mother even more suspicious of what's going on. Hiding things from her isn't good, and as your mother she has the right to know what you're doing. She's only looking out for you and trying to protect you. Maybe you did something that's giving her a reason to check into what you're doing on the internet. It's only natural a mother wants to check what her son/daughter is doing in the net.

So please, Nadine, don't run away and hide these things from your mom, it's only going to make matters worse.

[Midnight]

Nadine, please don't do this.
You have people here who care about you. Just let your mom know what's going on, I don't think telling her is going to make it any worse than if you hide everything from her.
And even if she found out who you were talking to, do you really think she'd try to keep you away? My mom knows who I talk to, and she doesn't mind. Your just over reacting a little.

If you just told her, you wouldn't have to hide anything, and she'd trust you more.
Please don't leave for good!!

[Del'aki]

This is truly sad news indeed.... However, I don't understand whats the problem with her knowing who you talk to? Unless of course, if she's planning identity theft, which of course is against the law!

I'm sure your mother is simply acting to ensure that people don't give you crap or such, here on the internet. Or perhaps she's seen that you've been quite affected of various issues that have occured at various points, both here and elsewhere.

Still, I don't understand why your mother would want to invade your privacy.... You're 18 years now, you've officially reached the age of which you get to make your own decision

Anyways, to cut things short. I'm very sorry to hear that things have come to this. Something must've happened to cause this issue with your mother, and I hope the two of you resolve said issue, in a peaceful and civil manner. However, if you do not return, let me wish you good luck with your future plans, and good luck with your life. Been a pleasure knowing you!

Let me finish with two quotes:

"Remember that fear always lurks behind perfectionism. Confronting your fears and allowing yourself the right to be human can, paradoxically, make you a far happier and more productive person. " [Dr. David M. Burns]

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"Fear is a question: What are you afraid of, and why? Just as the seed of health is in illness, because illness contains information, your fears are a treasure house of self-knowledge if you explore them." [Marilyn Ferguson]