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Pain
Apr 11, 2007 10:07:46 GMT -5
Post by EbonyPatriot on Apr 11, 2007 10:07:46 GMT -5
My grandfather has been diagnosed with Meningitis; he may also have had a stroke and possibly more. He's finally responsivie but still looks terrible- his skin is as cold as ice.
Words can not describe how much pain and fear I'm in: my grandfather has always been there for longer than I can remember. He's like a second father to me: the one I can always depend and to never loose his temper. He has always been very gentle and loving- never has he complained, never has he snapped at me. I love him so much.
I'm so worried about him I can't think of anything else. My grandmother went into the hospital with a broken hips and never came; I don't want to loose him too.
I won't be on the boards for a few days; I don't feel up to going online.
-EbonyPatriot
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Pain
Apr 11, 2007 11:38:24 GMT -5
Post by Epesi on Apr 11, 2007 11:38:24 GMT -5
I'm so sorry; all I can say is I hope he pulls through. He'll be on my mind. *hugs*
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Pain
Apr 11, 2007 12:15:38 GMT -5
Post by Del'aki on Apr 11, 2007 12:15:38 GMT -5
I'm so sorry to hear..... I really hope he'll make it. But to be honest, it sounds serious, just remember that death is a natural part of life, a path we all must take. Allow me to quote Bhagavad Gita "For certain is death for the born And certain is birth for the dead; Therefore over the inevitable Thou shouldst not grieve." Quote from Publilius Syrus: "The fear of death is more to be dreaded than death itself." Quote from the bible; John 11:25-26: "Jesus told her, "I am the resurrection and the life. Those who believe in me, even though they die like everyone else, will live again. They are given eternal life for believing in me and will never perish. Do you believe this, Martha?"" Loosing someone you love, is always something horrible, but nontheless its something we all will experience. Pray and the lord will hear. Heck I'll even think about your grand-dad when I pray tonight I sure hope he'll survive this. You should listen to this song. Darryl Worley; If something Should happen ---> youtube.com/watch?v=1HfY-sWLS-w
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Pain
Apr 11, 2007 12:56:22 GMT -5
Post by Truttle on Apr 11, 2007 12:56:22 GMT -5
I'm really sorry for you EP. I deeply hope your grandfather pulls through. I know how terrible you will feel but I can hope that you can know that he gave you his love so that you can be happy. Try not to suffer for the loss. He'd want you to be happy. Keep him in your heart and he'll always be with you.
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Pain
Apr 11, 2007 13:22:04 GMT -5
Post by kiriu on Apr 11, 2007 13:22:04 GMT -5
Awwww... I'm very sorry to hear that EP... I hope that your grandfather will feel better soon...
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Pain
Apr 11, 2007 14:07:03 GMT -5
Post by crimsonmaster on Apr 11, 2007 14:07:03 GMT -5
.....I'm so sorry, EP. I know what it's like; to tell you all the truth, I haven't been around because my mother and my grandmother both have been in surgery, and I've been taking care of them both--which, honestly, is a little bit of a pain sometimes, but I know how you feel--my mother is the type of person my family cannot afford to lose, and my grandmother (from my dad's family) is the only GOOD one in my entire family tree---the rest of my family, my mom's side i mean, all treat me like crap, and my dad's side is practically dead, so she's the only grandmother i got, basically. So I think I know how you feel. Remember when I said I write poems? well, I wrote some depressing ones because of all the stress I've been getting. Maybe you should try expressing yourself in some way, like poetry--let me tell you, it's a great way to express yourself. But that's only a suggestion. Well, again, I'm really sorry about this, and I hope all goes well for you. But if you need to talk to someone about pain, I'm always here. Not to mention that I'm the person to go to about pain, and I know, because...well, let's just say I had PLENTY of experience...
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Pain
Apr 11, 2007 14:16:49 GMT -5
Post by Eddi on Apr 11, 2007 14:16:49 GMT -5
we dont even hope he makes it he WILL make it but still *hugs*.
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Pain
Apr 16, 2007 16:04:13 GMT -5
Post by Midnight on Apr 16, 2007 16:04:13 GMT -5
Oh god... I'm sorry to hear that dude!!
I can completely relate to what you're feeling right now... I went through this kind of thing with my grandfather back in December 2005 - March 16 2006. As you can probably tell by the specific end date... mine didn't make it. He had terminal lung cancer that wasn't even found until a few days before he died. Stupid doctors thought he had Nemonia.
Anyway... all you can do is spend the most time with his as you possibly can. Make sure he knows you love him. That's the most important thing. And if you know what music he likes... try to get some of it and play it to him. And if he doesn't make it, just know that this way his suffering will have ended and he won't need to go through his pain anymore. Just know if anything bad happens... we'll all be here for you!
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Pain
Apr 20, 2007 16:46:24 GMT -5
Post by EbonyPatriot on Apr 20, 2007 16:46:24 GMT -5
I finally have time to type out a short message.
First off, I want to thank everyone for their kind words and support- I cannot tell you how much it helped me and my family. When I have more time I'll reply individually to everyone. Until then, thank you Epesi, Del'aki, Truttle, Kiriu, Crimsonmaster, Eddi, midnight, and Night Bear (for your video- it was very beautiful).
They've ruled out a stroke; however, he does have the second deadliest form of meningitis, strep and pneaumonia. The first few days were terrible: he did not recgonize me or anyone else and could only say "okay." I had thought he would die.
But he's doing better now, thankfully: he knows me and my family again. However, he needs therapy to walk again (as of now he is too weak- his muscles were weakened but not getting up) and his hearing is all but completely gone; he cannot understand what we say, we have to write it for him.
Still, he's alive- three different doctors have told us that he should not have survived. If his hearing is all that he loses.... I still worry though- he's not 100% out of the woods yet.
I still won't be able to be here though for a while: my grandfather's still at the hospital and I go to him everyday- I think seeing us helps him.
Once again, I thank you all so much: your words and kindness helped me through this dark time and are still helping me in my worries now. Thank you, my Brother Bear family.
-EbonyPatriot
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Pain
Apr 20, 2007 17:07:07 GMT -5
Post by Night Bear on Apr 20, 2007 17:07:07 GMT -5
Awww... glad your grandpa is doing better. ^^
I must apologize for removing the link to the video I provided you. It was taken down because a talk with a friend of mine made me nervous that the video would upset you. But since it clearly did not, I'll repost the link up again. Did you show your family the video?
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Pain
Apr 20, 2007 17:21:47 GMT -5
Post by Ken'ichi on Apr 20, 2007 17:21:47 GMT -5
I am glad to hear your grandpa is doing OK. I apologize for not being here with you due to my computer dying on me and then my internet was down. But I am glad to hear your grandpa is slowly but surely recovering. I am sorry to hear his hearing is gone. But at least he's alive.
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Pain
Apr 20, 2007 20:17:01 GMT -5
Post by Epesi on Apr 20, 2007 20:17:01 GMT -5
I'm glad to hear he's doing better. <3 My best wishes to all of you for a smooth recovery. I'm glad we're able to help you find comfort.
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Pain
Apr 21, 2007 1:55:18 GMT -5
Post by Truttle on Apr 21, 2007 1:55:18 GMT -5
I'm really happy to hear that your grandfather is recovering! It's wonderful that you stuck by his side this whole time. That love will make him happy and help him recover. Stay strong bro. He'll pull through.
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Pain
Apr 21, 2007 18:12:38 GMT -5
Post by Midnight on Apr 21, 2007 18:12:38 GMT -5
Good to hear about his recovery. Small as it may be, every little helps, right? Oh... and just curious... can he say anything other than "okay" now? Let's all hope for the best.
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Pain
Apr 28, 2007 14:25:48 GMT -5
Post by EbonyPatriot on Apr 28, 2007 14:25:48 GMT -5
Another chance to update (a bit longer this time):
Once again, I thank everyone for your kindness- it has been a great comfort to me. Thank you Night Bear, Ken'ichi, Epesi, Truttle, and midnight.
He can say more now- full sentences. What's more, his hearing is even coming back some- he can understand us.
He's gotten some blood and therapy- his legs are very weak from lying down. He can sit up now though.
I worry about him giving up like my grandmother did and losing the will to live; that's why I visit him everyday.
He'll be in rehab for a few weeks, so I still won't be able to get as much as I normally would; however, I think I will be able post more.
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